Can your attitude create stress? Yes. Can your attitude relieve stress? Sure. Can your attitude bring stress or relief to others? You bet!
Our attitude is a powerful thing. We can choose to have a good or a bad attitude. No one can make you have a bad attitude. Someone may do or say something that causes you to feel insecure or causes self-doubt. How you handle it is up to you. You can make the decision to let it ruin your day, or you can brush it off and move on.
Have you ever met someone who is having a bad day and then they let everyone know why they have a bad attitude? Get away from that person. They are an energy leak. You can be flying high with a great attitude and then you encounter a person like this. Give that person an encouraging word and then move on. Don’t let them drain your energy.
John Hagee sums up attitude with these four statements:
Your attitude is an inward feeling expressed by outward behavior. Everyone can see your attitude; you don’t need to say a word.
Your attitude is the “advance man” of your true self. The source of your attitude may be buried down deep, but the effect is always visible.
Your attitude is your best friend or your worst enemy. You will either draw people to you or chase them away.
Your attitude determines the quality of your relationships with your husband, wife, children, employer, friends, and God.
One of my favorite philosophies is the “Fish Philosophy”. One of the four practices is to “Choose Your Attitude”.
Choose Your Attitude. It starts with intention and awareness.
You choose your attitude the moment you wake up. Is it a conscious choice or are you on autopilot?
Ask yourself, “Who do I want to be today? What impact do I want to have?”
When you are aware of your choice, you control your attitude—it doesn’t control you.
Attitudes that trigger the stress response: criticism, pessimism, impatience, and attitude that might be described as “pushy”, “grumpy,” and “contentious.” These attitudes can cause behaviors that many people hate in others, but don’t often see in themselves: whining, murmuring, grumbling, backbiting, and arguing.
Attitudes that trigger the relief response: gratitude, appreciation, and thanksgiving. These attitudes not only make you feel good, they make those around you feel good too.
- Are you a thankful person? If five people who know you best were interviewed, would they describe you as a glass-half-full or a glass-half-empty person?
- What percentage of your thought life is good, positive, and thankful? How often do you express genuine gratitude, i.e., with a gift or note of appreciation?
- Stress Less, Author Don Colbert, MD